Describe your dream man


A few weeks ago, I asked three of my closest Orthodox friends a tough question:

“Describe your dream man in 200-250 words max.”

Their responses astonished me.

First off, I should mention that I have the most amazing friends on the planet who are all super successful, ambitious and inspiring in their own ways. They range professionally from a veterinarian to a fashion designer and an environmentalist, but are similar in that they all strive to be honest, authentic women who live life close to the Church.

Secondly, I’d like to acknowledge how strong they are in their own ways. Their strengths include diplomacy, conviction, uniqueness, patience, and perseverance, but what amazes me most is their deep and solid trust in the Lord, in their own path and divine timing.

Sisterhood is everything. 

So, without further adieu, in honor of Valentine’s Day this Wednesday, February 14th, here are three Orthodox women describing their “Dream Man.”


“The Perfect Balance”

Danielle engaged to Tim  

I met my dream man 3 years ago. Only I didn’t know it until we met again this year. We met at a friend’s wedding in Ottawa after having heard about each other through mutual friends. My sister was convinced he was my “soul mate” and eagerly introduced us. We did not have the opportunity to spend too much time together that night and after the wedding, we did not keep in touch.

Fast-forward 2 years later: I had just gotten out of a serious relationship and was finally feeling like my old self. My sister traveled to Ottawa again for a wedding (ironically it was the sister of the girl who had gotten married 2 years prior) and called to let me know that she was bringing him home with her so he could catch his flight from Toronto.

We gradually got to know each other from that point onwards.

He is hardworking and ambitious, but is not motivated by money. He is thoughtful and romantic, the perfect balance to my practicality.  He is always 100% authentic, no matter what crowd he is with; he fits right in just being himself. Best of all, he pushes me toward Christ, simply by his quiet example, and whenever we hit a roadblock, he turns us to the Church and our priests for answers.

I feel exceptionally blessed to have found this wonderful man.

“I Know That I Am Covered”


I remember one evening, I was at my Spiritual Father’s house for dinner. Above the dining table, there hung a small chandelier with icons draped from it, much like ornaments on a Christmas tree. He told me to choose one for myself. I knew I would prefer the blessing of him choosing the one he thought I should have. He insisted that I choose, but I hesitated.

His Presbytera spoke up and said, “She wants you to choose.”

He picked one with the Holy Mother holding Christ.

I feel that this situation has been a metaphor for how I feel about what I look for in my future husband. As much as I think He would allow me to make my own choice, I have asked Him to do so in my place because I know it will be much better.

In that moment, Presbytera represented the Virgin Mary, interceding for our souls and presenting our requests to Christ.

I don’t know what He will bring, but I believe there is a man for me that God has already selected. I have asked God to give my future husband the clear indication that I am to be his wife so that there is no doubt in his mind. With that said, I don’t know what I am looking for, but I know that I am covered.

“The Ultimate Best Friend”


The man that I pray for every day, and will continue to pray for, God has already chosen for me.

I pray for a fun-loving, strong man – the Sun to my Moon, the Lion to my Lioness. A man that is strong in his convictions and is there when I need him. I pray for a partnership, a relationship that thrives off authenticity, intuition, trust, and continuous growth.

A man who works hard, who knows himself and uses his strengths for good. A man who forgives easily, a man who cares and believes in the truth –  someone who strives to be a light in this dark world.

A man who helps his community and prays for strength in hard times. A man who seeks salvation and wants to work through the struggles of the unknown together.

We are preparing ourselves for each other, and in divine timing, we will meet and live out our true paths together.

I am so excited to spend my life with you, the ultimate best friend.


Thank you, Danielle, Anna, and Helen, for sharing your truth with us. Your responses inspired words of love, peace and prayer. May God guide you always and be with you on your journeys. And when the time comes, when you’ve met Mr. Right, I’ll be there ready to celebrate with you!

I wish you all the best.

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone! Have a love-ly day!

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I think this is sound wisdom and counters the ego’s vain imagination that is so easily engaged with the highly rated message of worldly appeal – to be able to “manifest your every wish” by drawing it up and then go for it with everything, especially investment. It is a huge market. Instead, you each sound “in Love”, already! 😀 Your stories each capture the example of the ‘betrothed Virgin Theotokos’ as she said to the angel – and God – “Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy word.” (Lu 1:38) She was engaged… Read more »