To be the way we are

“Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy” ― Anne Frank

I think it’s fair to say we all have something we would gladly change about ourselves. I have yet to meet a woman who is totally okay with her body and personality as is.

There are days we wake up feeling sassy, classy, and a bit bad-assy. We look good, we feel good, and we strut down the street workin’ it just fine. Other days, we don’t. We are bloated, blotchy, and not-so-hot-hottie. We cry when we get dressed (like most things this is probably just me) and cannot wait to get home, put on our pajamas, and crawl back into bed (to cry some more, obviously).

I am learning, however, that the secret to being the way we are is not always being happy. It is always being grateful, even on the hard days.

For inspiration, I’m going to talk about peacocks. Yes, peacocks or, if you want to get technical, which apparently I do: peahens, which are female peacocks. Peafowl is the gender-neutral term. Fun fact!

Peahens have much to teach us about beauty and self-confidence. They are known for their flamboyant, almost laughable sense of self-respect and commanding presence. In Christianity, the peacock is associated with the Phoenix, the mystical bird that resurrects from the dead. To embrace our individuality and true self we must shed our old feathers (doubts, fears, anxieties, and insecurities) and rise from our ashes to be who we really are.

Like all things, beauty and self-confidence comes from the inside.

Despite their majesty, it has been said that peacocks do not like their feet. Whenever a peacock catches a glimpse of their feet they shriek with horror! See, we all have something!

But they keep it in perspective. A peacock’s feathers are known as “the all-seeing eyes” that remind us to keep centered and focused on wholeness – not what we perceive to be missing. By being grateful for who we are and what we have, we develop a lighthearted attitude, taking no-thing too seriously.

So rise from your ashes and embrace your true colors! You are beautiful just the way you are.

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Jessica is an employment specialist for marginalized youth in Toronto, Canada. She enjoys teaching, traveling and observing - especially the relationship between mind and heart. Jessica also has a passion for outdoor walks, dancing, and all things offbeat and authentic. You can contact her at

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