New Year, New You?
Have you made any New Year’s resolutions? Want to start exercising, be punctual or quit smoking?
Well, if you’ve made a New Year’s goal you should keep it to yourself.
Derek Sivers, an entrepreneur, believes it’s better to keep our goals a secret. According to the research, people who talk about their goals are less likely to achieve them.
Accomplishing a goal requires a lot of hard work. There is a great deal of unseen time, passion and diligence involved – and ideally – you are only satisfied when you’ve completed the work and arrived at the finish line.
This all goes downhill when you share your ambitions with others.
The social gratification and satisfaction of having someone acknowledge your goal acts like a “substitution”: it makes your mind believe that the goal has already been accomplished.
Studies show that individuals who share their goals are less motivated to actually do the work to achieve their goals.
The best course of action is to resist temptation – delay gratification and avoid speaking about your ambitions. However, if you must speak about your goals, say it in a way that gives you no satisfaction:
“I really want to run this marathon, so I need to train five times a week and kick my ass if I don’t, okay?”
What’s your New Year’s Resolution? Let me know only when you’ve achieved your goal!
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