The best advice I’ve ever been given?
Pray on it.
Pray on everything.
Whatever is wrestling your heart, whether it be relationship troubles, work, school, and financial woes, or life losses, changes, and adventures.
God hears every prayer.
But still, there are times when we need a little help that’s why we have the saints. A saint I’ve found recent closeness with is St. Xenia of St. Petersburg. She is the saint for those seeking a job, spouse, or home, the healing of mental illness, or a marriage in times of trouble.
A bit about the life of St. Xenia:
She was born about the year 1730 and was married to a Colonel named Andrew. When she was twenty-six years old, her husband died suddenly without Christian preparation. St. Xenia, grieving the loss of her husband abandoned her former way of life giving away her house and possessions to the poor. She began to wear her husband’s clothing and insisted on being called “Andrew Feodorovich,” telling people it was she who died, and not her husband.
She left St. Petersburg for eight years to visit holy elders and ascetics. When she returned to St. Petersburg she took up the life of a homeless wanderer and was abused by many as insane. She bore this with great patience, crucifying the carnal mind through the mockery she endured, and praying for her husband’s soul.
She was given great gifts of prayer and prophecy and often foretold of things to come for the citizens of St. Petersburg. They said: “Xenia does not belong to this world; she belongs to God.”
Having lived forty-five years after her husband’s death, she departed to the Lord at the age of seventy-one. She was buried in the Smolensk Cemetery. People flocked to her grave to pray for her soul, and to ask her to intercede with God for them. So many visitors took earth from her grave that it had to be replaced every year. Later, a chapel was built over her grave.
Her feast day is celebrated on January 24th and February 7th. A beautiful story from her Akathist is Kontakion 7:
Wishing to set human lives on a good course, thou didst order a humble maiden to go to Okhta saying, “Your husband is burying his wife.” And she, although confused, nevertheless did not disobey thy words, but went, and met there a young widower weeping at the grave of his wife, and gave him prayerful comfort. In a year they married and lived for many years in love and harmony, teaching their children to honor thee, O Holy Mother, singing sounds of praise to God: Alleluia!
What an incredible life and example for us!